Millions of people across the UK care for a family member, often alongside work, children and the rest of everyday life. Caring for someone you love can be deeply rewarding, but it can also be physically and emotionally exhausting, especially when it goes on for a long time.
Many family carers put their own needs last. Yet looking after yourself isn’t selfish; it’s what makes it possible to keep caring well.
Recognising when you’re running on empty
Care companion strain often builds gradually, so it can be hard to notice. Signs might include:
- feeling tired all the time, or struggling to sleep
- feeling irritable, tearful or overwhelmed more often
- losing touch with friends or giving up things you enjoy
- feeling guilty when you take any time for yourself
- neglecting your own health appointments
Small things that help
There’s no single answer, but many care companions find that small, regular changes make a difference:
- Take short breaks. Even an hour to yourself each week can help you recharge.
- Stay connected. Keep in touch with friends, even briefly, and say yes when people offer to help.
- Talk to others in your position. Local care companions' groups and online communities can be a great source of understanding and practical tips.
- Keep your own appointments. Your health matters too.
Find out what support is available
There is more support available for family carers than many people realise. Local care companions' centres, national charities such as Care companions UK, and your local council can all help you find out what support may be available in your area. Your GP surgery may also be able to note that you are a care companion.
Accepting help without guilt
Many care companions feel they should be able to manage everything themselves, or worry that bringing in help means they’re letting their loved one down. In reality, having support in place often improves things for everyone. A rested care companion has more patience and energy, and the person being cared for benefits from a happier, healthier relationship.
How respite care can help
Respite care gives family carers a proper break, whether that’s a holiday, a few days to rest, or regular time off. With live-in respite care, a care companion moves in to support your loved one at home, so their routines carry on as normal while you’re away. For some families, it’s also a gentle way to see how extra support at home might work in the longer term.
If you’re caring for someone and would like to talk about taking a break, we’re happy to help you plan it.