Dementia rarely appears overnight. More often, families notice a series of small changes over months or even years, and only later piece together that something more was happening. Being aware of these changes can help families start a conversation earlier, and seek the right support.
This article isn’t medical advice, and many of these changes can have other causes. If you’re concerned about someone, the best first step is to encourage them to speak to their GP.
Changes families often notice
- Memory. Forgetting recent conversations or events, asking the same question repeatedly, or relying more on notes and reminders.
- Everyday tasks. Difficulty with familiar tasks such as following a recipe, managing post or using the TV remote.
- Getting lost or confused. Losing track of the day or date, or becoming disorientated in a familiar place.
- Words and conversation. Struggling to find the right word, or losing the thread of a conversation.
- Mood and personality. Becoming more withdrawn, anxious or irritable, or losing interest in hobbies and friends.
- Around the home. Unopened post, out-of-date food, missed appointments or a home that is less tidy than usual.
Why it’s worth acting early
It’s natural to hope that changes are just part of getting older, and many people put off seeking advice. But understanding what is happening sooner gives everyone more time to plan, to put support in place and to make decisions together while the person can fully take part.
Approaching the conversation
Raising concerns about memory can be very sensitive. It often helps to:
- choose a calm, private moment, rather than raising it in front of others
- focus on how the person is feeling, rather than listing mistakes
- suggest a GP appointment as a general check-up, as other conditions can cause similar symptoms
- offer to go along to the appointment for support
Looking after yourself
Noticing changes in someone you love can be worrying and upsetting. Charities such as Alzheimer’s Society and Dementia UK offer information and helplines for families, which can be a real support at this stage.
Thinking about support at home
Many people living with dementia want to stay in their own home, surrounded by familiar things and routines. As needs grow, a consistent care companion who gets to know the person well can help them do just that, offering reassurance, companionship and help with daily life.
If you’re starting to think about what support might look like in the future, we’re happy to talk it through, whenever you’re ready.